Undying SELF Love

For this week's card of advice I asked a dear friend of mine to do a collaboration divination with me. She is a budding botanist, fashion faerie and is well on her way down her own magic path. (You can find her on Instagram and Tumblr @alienbotanist ) Part of her card collection includes a goddess oracle deck and it is from that particular deck that I asked her to draw a card. She set her intentions to ask the universal feminine energies what advice they have for all of us this week and here is what she has to say about the card she received: 


" I drew Isolt, a Celtic heroine who was trapped in a love triangle between her husband and Tristan, the man she was truly in love with. She handled herself with grace and dignity, balancing respect for her husband and passionate love for Tristan. According to her mythos  because she could not live without Tristan's love, and he without hers, they both die. After being tricked by his wife into thinking that Queen Isolt doesn't love him, he dies of a broken heart. Isolt's love for him is so intense that she dies of a broken heart too. Their love for each other caused them nothing but harm and grief throughout their lives and only in death did they find any resolution. They were buried next to each other and a Hawthorne grew from each grave, and branch from each tree grew to entangle with the other every night. I feel that this card is more a warning against basing your self worth in the love you receive from another. Queen Isolt did that and it literally killed her and her lover. Today, Isolt helps us through our own relationships, be them familial, platonic, or romantic. She guides us to listen to our hearts in such matters, but when it comes to heartache (the facet she seems focused on in this reading) she urges us to understand our own healing. The heart heals with time but she reminds us to treat ourselves and our hurt as you would any ailing person, with compassion, tenderness, fragility when needed, as above all, to address the love we must hold for ourselves without the love of a partner. These kind words come with a warning however; no matter how hurt your heart is, do not give in to
recklessness. A moment of inattentiveness could lead to an even greater downfall. It is okay to hurt, but do not let it destroy your life in the process. Your heart will mend, just give it time, love and compassion."

-alienbotanist




As I read over my friend's description of Isolt and prepared myself to channel a message from her, I felt a bit apprehensive. Isolt is not a goddess in Celtic lore, and I worried that it may be hard to hear her speak to me. I set up an altar of crystals and flowers, lit a small candle in an old orange peel, and started the incense burning,  preparing to channel. As I began to reach out to Isolt,  I got the distinct sense that she did not require anything to be devoted to her (perhaps because she isn't actually a goddess?), so I blew out the incense. This seemed to make our connection feel more comfortable, and though it was quite hard to hear her, she had many things to tell us. Here is the channeled conversation between Isolt and I:

Me: Dearest Isolt, what message do you have to give us about love?

Isolt: As you may know my story is one of true love, and tragedy. There are things about love that I wish that I had known as a human, and it is those things in particular that I'd like to share with you. I feel that my image has become clouded, and that my story, my true story, of tragic love has become something it never was. My life was not a fairytale abd I'm not considered a goddess, but as a human woman  I suffered the heartache of love that many of us experience and I believe this to be why so many people kept telling my story. 

Me: What then would you like us to know about your story?

Isolt: I am Isolt Canaan. I was married off in the human life I lived,  put into an arranged marriage that meant nothing to my heart. My truest love was Tristan, and any moment that I could sneak away from my husband was spent with him. Although at the time it made me feel alive to be secretly so deeply in love with Tristan, something was missing and I couldn't figure it out before it was too late. I gave my life to prove the love I felt for Tristan, perhaps this has something to do with why my card says 'Undying Love'? Because the idea is that if you give yourself so completely in love to another,  that your love will always love on? Truly I am here to tell you that the most important person to give unconditional love to is yourself.

This is what I wish I would have learned before I passed into spirit. You need your love first, before you can truly give love to anyone else. Your own love can heal you, but first you must realize that you are worthy of your own love.

Me: As for advice for the week ahead, what do you wish to share?

Isolt: Treat yourself with kindness. I believe many of you have been discussing manifestation lately, and the fact that it is a very open time, so I have to tell you to be kind to yourself. You deserve your love and tenderness. You are the best version of yourself that you can be right now, and giving yourself love will help you open your heart and receive the blessings that you've been asking for.

Me: and do you have any advice for those of us who may have relationship troubles?

Isolt: My advice would be the same. You must fully love yourself dear ones, before any love that is in your life can be honest and true. You must face yourself with honesty, and see the parts of yourself that you dislike for what they are, and then you must embrace yourself for what you are! How can you become more of yourself if you aren't paying attention to where you're starting.

Romantic love feels incredible,  but self-love gives you a feeling that can't be put into words,  it is the feeling of knowing your truth. So be gentle to yourself,  . find ways to remind yourself why you love yourself this week. Your heart is the key to magic!

Me: Thank you very much for your advice Isolt.

Isolt: Thank you for asking me. It feels good to share my knowledge. Good luck to you all.




It seems that this week's lesson for us all is to revive, enliven, and invigorate our self-love connection. I am sending love from my heart to all of yours.

-C.Lucine